Is Your Life Out of Balance?
- Are you successful in some areas of your life but struggling in others?
- Is it hard to shake feelings of depression, anxiety or a general sense of dissatisfaction with your life?
- Are your relationships confusing and less than fulfilling? Do you commit, do you stay, do you leave?
- Is this the life that you were meant to be living? Do you hunger for something more?
Juggling work, family, relationships, and personal life is certainly difficult in today’s world. As guys, we don’t really like to talk about it. You know, the stress, the dissatisfaction with our lives, our relationships, our jobs. Hitting that point in life where things just aren’t what we thought they were supposed to be. So we shut down. We get angry and irritable. We stuff it down because we’re never supposed to let them see us sweat. The problem is we end up exhausted, frustrated, and just plain lost.
Many Men Struggle with Work-life Balance, Relationships and Self-care.
According to a recent survey from MimeCast, 39% of users regularly send, receive, and check work emails outside of working hours. As a man, you may feel that there is no place to turn to deal with workplace stress, and you’re not alone. More than half of men surveyed have heard other men talking about the struggles involved with trying to balance life and work (Good Men Project) This also confirms what many already know: a growing number believe chasing a career means they will miss out on a decent personal and family life.
As men, we’re all trying to figure this out. Sometimes it can feel as if we’re on an unending hamster wheel with no end in sight. We have an idea of what we want and how to get there, but somehow, we get lost along the way. We wake up and we’re way off track from our dreams and original intentions of becoming the man we had hoped to be. Our relationships have become routine and stale. Maybe you’re trying to figure out if you should commit to or even stay in your current relationship. It’s confusing!
I get it. I’ve been there! I have personally struggled with work-life balance and other stressors. I found myself climbing the corporate ladder early in my career because of my strong management and administrative skills but eventually came to realize that I was sacrificing my family, personal health, and well-being, to get ahead. I’ve been able to manage major changes in my career and relationships, but I needed support and encouragement to do it.
The good news is that you don’t have to figure out the roadmap to this by yourself. Having the help of a compassionate and focused therapist can help you to get back on track to feeling fulfilled and satisfied in your everyday life.
Individual Therapy Can Help You Obtain Clarity, Direction, and Freedom
Men often think that their struggles are more difficult, more unusual, more embarrassing, more whatever (you fill in the blank) than what others deal with. Part of my job is to help you to see more objectively what you are going through and to help you counterbalance the natural inclination to isolate when struggling.
We’ve all tried talking to our friends, and wives/girlfriends, but they can only help so much. We often try to figure this out on our own, but everyone can use some objective feedback, support, and encouragement. Therapy has been found to be effective in helping men “get off the dime” and switching from constantly deliberating about the problem to engaging in the work to get to solutions.
I work diligently to provide a non-judgmental environment of compassionate listening, support and care. We’ll take a realistic look and assessment of your current situation and then set some clear goals and a plan on how to get there. I emphasize accountability and real-world application of what we discuss in your sessions, so it ends up being more than just talking about the problem. We’ll also regularly evaluate where you are and how you feel about the process along the way.
I specialize in working with issues that are unique and specific to men. It is my privilege and joy to assist men as they work through difficult transitions or phases of their life as they move towards the life they’ve always wanted to have. I have been helping men recalibrate their lives to provide balance between work and home/family for over 25 years. Men that decide to invest in themselves often find better balance, stability and overall satisfaction with their lives.
But You May Still Have Questions About Men’s Therapy…
“I Think Therapy is Just Talking About Problems – Can’t I just Talk To My friends and family?”
It’s not the same – your friends and family can’t be totally objective with you. It helps to have a safe place where you can be totally honest about how you feel and what you think. A professional therapist can help you explore your vulnerabilities and weaknesses and help you to maximize your strengths in a confidential and private setting.
“How Can I Take Time Out of My Very Busy Schedule?”
Some of my clients come in to work an hour early or stay an hour late to make up the time, others use their lunch hour. Men with flexible schedules just let their bosses know that they can’t work a specific time. Others use some of their paid leave each week (regular medical appointment) and I’m happy to give a work excuse if that would be helpful. My clients are like you and they manage to make sessions happen with their busy work schedules.
“Isn’t It Expensive?”
Everything important has a cost. If you continue living the way you are living now, what will be the cost to your important relationships and your personal life? Can you afford not to look at what’s going on in your life and make the needed course corrections? We don’t typically scrimp on medical and dental care. Isn’t your mental health and peace of mind just as important?
I am also an approved provider with Anthem BC/BS insurance – most policy holders ending up paying a small co-pay each session. If you have other insurance, I can file for you so that you can utilize your out-of-network benefits to help reduce your costs.
You Can Have a Empowered Life of Balance, Joy, and Success!
Call me at 317.537.7821, or send me an emai to set up an appointment or arrange for a free 20-minute phone consultation. I do my best to respond to email and voice mail inquiries within 24 hours In addition to regular daytime appointments, some evening and early morning appointments are also available.